‘The unspoken message is clear enough: as long as a woman is a virgin, she remains completely asexual.’
‘Virginity is not a matter of asserting power in order to manipulate. It is a refusal to exploit or be exploited.’
‘So-called sexual freedom is really just proclaiming oneself to be available for free, and therefore without value. It’s tantamount to saying that one is worth nothing.’
As one of our members ‘Friend4354′ said on the Virginspiration Forums, ‘Note how desirable we are, as evidenced at the note at the end: Miss Hinlicky says thanks to all those who have written to her. She cordially requests, however, that all unsolicited love letters cease.’
Mollie Sorensen has create a book dedicated to every curious teenager who wants to hear more than “NO” and to every parent, teacher or youth leader who must answer the question, “WHY?” It shows why chastity creates more love not less.
Lately I was asked why I do this… why do I put myself out there, trying to talk to people about this topic. One of the main reasons that came to mind (the key that drives me along) is to reach those people who are asking questions about sex.
Most youngsters, teenagers and young adults who want to start asking question, have 4 major routes to get that information.
1) The Media – We all know how messed up the media is
2) The Internet
3) Their friends!
4) Their Parents
You see, it falls to the second most likely place for someone to search about sexual questions is online, where they can remain anonymous, but they can still ask the hard questions!
And there in lies the mission of Virginspiration, we are hoping to bridge the gap between no knowledge and the completely wrong information regarding sexual abstinence.
As always I spend a lot of my time surfing the web, especially other wordpress blogs (coz I like to get the down low on what actually people are saying about things like virginity and remaining virgin till marriage.
Its amazing the sort of media driven twisted messages out there. All sorts of stuff promoting the concept of go ahead and have sex, just be safe. Its sad to think that the people who believe as we do are either very few, or simply take what they are doing for granted and don’t get out and about and try support and promote the concept!
Recently on the Virginspiration Forum we had a new member post a link to a Yahoo! Group for Abstinent Singles, its a nicely run group that is heavily moderated. I don’t blame them for their moderation because a lot of people out there like to down talk or take advantage of these sorts of groups!
All of this makes me even more inspired to get a Virginspiration Community or the Virgins United system up and running. We need to get people involved, active in promoting the concept, just to get the word out!
Well, I will endeavor to get the community connected, but in the meantime… stay strong!
As the lyrics of the song ‘Revelations in the Calm’ from ‘Oh, Sleeper’ go
I did not make this video
‘a holocaust is coming
from the pure in the world
you can’t use ignorance as an alibi anymore’
These lyrics are so true, remaining virgin is often seen as remaining pure. Here we are motivating and inspiring you out there to remain virgin till marriage, but a holocaust is coming, it is becoming more and more difficult to find others out there who think like we do! People who are motivated to remain virgin till marriage! It is becoming a hollow world, where the idea of remaining pure is shunned, pushed aside and just about seen as something not worth caring about.
I fear the day that the holocaust arrives, that we find ourselves in a totally unpure world.
Be strong, stay motivated and realise the value of what you have, and save it for your future partner!!
So this will probably be a small post, but really wanted to get it down whilst it is fresh in my mind!
I was wandering around my local book store, just browsing to blow sometime this evening.. and the health section grabbed my attention. A simple book shelf with 4 shelves within it, yet 3 of the 4 were dedicated to sex, sexual health, voodoo sex guides, and all sorts of other crazy sexually related topics.
What is this a sign of, has our world become so fixated on sex that now we want to dedicate most of our ‘Health’ section at the book store to it?! Yet in the psychology section we have books also littered with Sex… One comment on the back of a book I saw said, ‘Don’t give him sex straight away, just think of the passion he will have built up when you finally say Yes!’ Good grief… and that was a book about great love. Love has nothing to do with Sex.
Its overall not surprising though, its become common place… and if we are going to remain strong, we are going to have to be strong enough to ignore all of this rubbish that the world throws at us, all of these misconceptions…
So Virginity is something that always comes up in just about any conversation I have these days. Its a topic I feel comfortable discussing and you will be surprised at how many people actually feel comfortable discussing this sort of topic. Its great, and I appreciate the openness of so many of my acquaintances and friends!!! Every person introduces a new perspective to life and every people plants a new thought in my head. Its great and a growing experience for everyone involved in that discussion!
The greatest part lately is everyone I talk to is supportive of my stance, ‘Stay Virgin Till Marriage’ even those who haven’t kept themselves agree that they wish that they had. Its been inspirational to meet guys and girls much older than me that are Virgin. Its motivating, looking at someone a few years older who is also keeping themselves. Its great meeting dating couples who have lived together for 2 years nearly and still, no sleeping together! What a motivating & inspirational situation! Even sexual statistics coming out of America & Canada are looking more and more positive!
It feels as though the tide is turning, and we are slowly beginning to win a battle here. We haven’t won the war, but each battle gets us closer!!!
Still so many topics worth writing about, and so many inspiration stories worth posting on the site! But lets first get to a post we had on the Forum asking, ‘u know sometimes, I feel like having sex. what do I do when those thoughts and urges come?’
Its an awesome question… something I think everyone remaining virgin till marriage has to deal with! Something they probably get asked all the time too!!
Firstly I would like to invite you to comment.. how do you manage, how do you push the thoughts, ‘of actually going through with having sex with someone’ out of your mind. How do you stay strong?!
So here is a mini list of methods…
Firstly you need to realise that this is perfectly normal, and we all experience this…
As our last post explains, sexual urges all start in the Brain, or thoughts about it! Try to remove the thoughts from your mind. Think about something else, distract yourself!
Remove the cause’s of these thoughts. It could be something on TV, or someone talking a bit provocatively on the radio.
Are you with someone?! This could be the hardest. We all battle when two people are together. Set boundaries. Boundaries with the other person, and your own person boundaries. You’ve made a choice (against sex before marriage) so that should automatically setup some kind of boundaries in your head! Remember anything with the word Sex in it, is Sex!
I definitely want to see this list grow, I would like to fill it with methods that work for different people. So please leave a comment on this post!!! Also see what has been said on the forum at http://virginspiration.forumandco.com/
So I have been wondering all week what topic I should choose for my next post! The site has been getting lots of hits from some very interesting search terms… and they are a great prompt for some new posts!! I have however been doing some research on the Brain and how it is the Most Important Sexual Organ we have.
Both sexes have a very mixed up opinion of what the opposite sex finds sexy. You could try and group people into specific fields and say, ‘Men find women sexy when they are naked!’ but at exactly the same time another man might say, ‘No way, women in lingerie are sexy!’ So I do not want to say what does what for who. I do want to point out that these are external stimuli which vary between people and are never consist.
So how is Sex in the Brain?! Why is it the Most important Sexual Organ?! Well everyone has the desire to be loved or wanted. They want to know that their partner finds them attractive. These desires are rooted not in physical act of sex, but in the Brain. Honestly… why do you think we have the saying or need, ‘to get in the mood’, because it all starts in the brain!! We cannot initiate sex unless we’ve been thinking about it, or have it on our minds at that time!
The brain also controls most of the bodies sexual responses, from releasing sexual hormones (Oxytocin, being one of them) and even beginning to create mental imagery and storing all of your sexual experiences you have experienced! You often here people say things like, ‘You’ll never forget your first!’ and this is probably true, your brain will have had such a large influence in and during your first sexual experience that chances are very high that you will never forget it.
Another reason to save sex until marriage, that ‘memory’ is another way that we are bonded to our sexual partners and saving that memory till marriage can only mean great things for your marriage relationship. That memory is another part of you that is now filled with the other person, its another part of you that has been given to them and that can never be given back.
So now I decided to re-post each of the posts on this blog on our Forum.. that way people can really get discussions going based on each posts topic! Check it out!!
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